One of the most common reasons that women come to see me is that they have lost the feeling of happiness in their lives. Maybe life didn’t turn out the way they thought it would or maybe it did and they thought they would be happier. Or they have lost weight, […]
Three years ago on January 1st I started to put a small entry into a "One line a day" journal. I wrote something short each evening about my day and what worked in that day and what didn't. My goal was to put more joy into my life immediately. Although from […]
I hear similar stories from the parents I work with and from friends, "How come my children are ungrateful little brats?"
From years of working with parents, I've come to the realization that parents seem to expect their children to be born grateful and with the ability to say things such […]
Each year millions of women (and men) vow to lose weight. Apparently, only about 5% of them succeed for any length of time. From my observations, the ones that don’t succeed spend the rest of the year obsessing about their weight and their lack of weight loss success. How many more […]
The holidays can be a glorious time for family togetherness, great food, beautiful decorations, and spiritual and religious growth. It can also be prime time for the dreaded emotions of resentment and guilt. What is it about the holiday season that summons up annoyance and aggravation to the point of seasonal […]
I’m not sure why time seems to go faster as each year passes but I know that saying so makes me sound like my grandparents! As the year comes to an end how will you look back at this year? With regrets, unfinished business, goals not met, gratitude, hope, or some […]
Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. I love the food, family time, usually mild weather, and the calm before the end of the year holiday storm. I particularly love the concept of having a day just to be grateful, just to be thankful for all that we have […]
The guilt/shame doom loop; are you stuck in it?
Every few months or so I realize that although my clients come to me to talk about a lot of different issues, at the heart of our talks is a common issue that they are all struggling with.
Guilt / Shame / […]
"If it’s a red flag while you are dating, it turns into a billboard sign after you get married."
These wise words are from one of my clients who just got divorced.
My work puts me into the unique position of 20/20 hindsight on dating mistakes that may lead you right […]
Over the last couple of weeks I've noticed a pattern with my clients; they aren't enjoying the moments and events that they do to supposedly find enjoyment.
Admittedly, I've been known to do the same thing. One of my clients pours herself a glass of wine and then berates herself for […]