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The Problem With People-Pleasing

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Like many people I know, I’m a people-pleaser. I really like people to like me. It feels good to be liked and likeable, as well as being noticed and complimented. People-pleasing comes easy to me as I’ve done it for most of my life. However, over the last few years, I’ve […]



What’s Wrong with Relationships?

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As part of my business, I am a corporate trainer as well as a lead trainer for a fabulous coaching school. I love my work. I train people around leadership skills, communication, and relationships. Yet I find that when I even mention the word relationships, I get oddly negative responses from […]



Your Child in a Word

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Often, when I’m talking to parents of young school-aged children, I ask them to come up with a word or phrase that they hope will describe their child when they are eighteen years old. I do this to help parents look at the end of most of their parenting duties and […]



The Groundhog Day Yoga Class

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How many of you have seen and loved the movie, Groundhog Day? Bill Murray gets to live Groundhog Day over and over again until he gains insight into himself and his place in the world. How many of us wouldn’t love a chance to redo a day until we got it […]



The “31 Ways to Be Assertive” Challenge

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How many of us have felt that we could have handled a situation with more assertiveness? How often have you regretted not being more assertive? You aren't alone. Assertiveness is a great concept but sometimes it's hard to put into action. Many of us never learned how to be assertive and […]



The Two Reasons We Don’t Accomplish Our Goals

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I spend a lot of time with people who want to achieve their goals, but can’t figure out why they don’t. They often tell me that they are just lazy or too busy, but rarely are either of those reasons true. Here are the two most common reasons that people don’t […]



Stop Running from Your Feelings

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Why are feelings so difficult for so many of us? Why are we constantly working to avoid them? Did we get some type of a memo as kids to stop having feelings and push them away at all costs? Well actually, I think the answer to that last question is a […]



Summer Memories Relived

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Since I was a young girl, I have truly lived for the summer. I’m a life-long Chicagoan and summers are hard won around here. The beautiful weather, the green surroundings, and the shedding of layers as we Chicagoans leave our caves to enjoy the world is a long awaited reward. When […]



Birthday Messages to People We Love

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Last month, I spent a weekend with seven of my dear friends. We were celebrating the 50th birthday of one of our traveling buddies. This particular friend started a tradition on our birthdays in which we go around the table and tell that friend what she means to us. This time, […]



What Exactly is Leadership and How is it Done Well?

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I try to limit my political discussions in this blog, but our current president has offered up a great opportunity to talk about the concept and the behavior around effective leadership. Let’s take our political viewpoints out of this, and instead focus on the lessons that might be learned by observing […]