When I was thirty-seven years old and about to start a doctoral internship in psychology, I found out I was pregnant with my son. I actually know how babies are conceived, so I shouldn’t have been surprised that I was pregnant. Yet years of infertility and my doctor’s suggestion that it […]
My daughter is a freshman at Pennsylvania State University. (Penn State for those of us who are paying the bills.) My girl is having one heck of a time at her school. She loves her sorority, her dorm floor, and the beauty that comes with being on her own and having […]
Recently, I was on a business trip in Minneapolis and actually missing the misery that comes with my latest addiction—hot yoga. I decided to find a yoga studio near my hotel in order to indulge my new love/hate relationship with yoga and yogis. Arriving just in time for the after work […]
Many clients ask me this question, "Why do bad things happen to me?" It's an understandable question in that often there are difficult challenges occurring in their lives, sometimes even tragic situations. Yet let's take a look at this question and why it might be part of the problem or keeping […]
My dog is an adorable seventy-five pound Goldendoodle named Ginger. She's full of energy and love and my family adores her. Ginger cries every single day. Not because she's sad or in pain, but rather because she is so freakin' happy that she can't help herself. Rarely does she cry for […]
One of my favorite books is Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. It's a must read. Frankl posits the concept that between a stimulus in our environment and our response lies our ability to choose how we want to respond. It's the exact opposite of, "The devil made me do it." […]
This month marks twenty-seven years of marriage for me and my groom. It's been a helluva ride. I'm sure there are cliff drops ahead, but I like to do a little relationship analysis every year. Here are a few epiphanies I've had this year.
You can't force change.
It turns out […]
I spend a lot of time with really smart, accomplished women who are really lacking in assertiveness. When I ask these brilliant women why they aren't more assertive, I get two common answers; 1) What if I'm wrong? 2) I don't want to hurt anyone else. Let's unpack these a little bit.
Lately, I seem to be surrounded by women who are ready for their second act of life. Their children are grown and mostly independent. Many of these women either didn’t work outside of the house or chose to slow down their careers to focus on family. Of course, these are privileged […]
A few weeks ago, I had a very bad week. Or did I? I was working with a woman who nicely asked me what I was having. As I looked at her with complete confusion, I realized that she was asking what gender my future baby was going to be. The […]