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Getting Unconscious – Is It Worth It?

If you ask me what my greatest skill is, it’s avoidance or getting unconscious or sticking my head in the sand. I’m a star at it. I developed the skill as a young girl when I didn’t like what was going on in my world.

If you ask me what my greatest skill is, it’s avoidance or getting unconscious or sticking my head in the sand. I’m a star at it. I developed the skill as a young girl when I didn’t like what was going on in my world. It started with reading in which […]



Regrets of Motherhood

I try not to spend too much time looking backwards, but rather living in the moment and enjoying the time I have with my children today. Yet I’m frequently asked as both a mother and a psychologist what I might do differently if I had to do motherhood again.

As I prepare to send my second child off to college, and my third child only two years after that, the empty nest looms large and a bit scary for my future. I try not to spend too much time looking backwards, but rather living in the moment and enjoying the […]



Channeling Your 21-Year-Old Self

I had forgotten how full of hope and energy a young female co-ed could be. They were hopeful and innocent, yet smart and worldly. They were everything that I thought I’d be for the rest of my life.

Recently, I made a triumphant pilgrimage back to my college alma mater. I was invited back by a dear friend who teaches at the school. She invited me to talk to administrators, coaches, and two groups of female athletes. It was an incredible day...but the young women. Wow, the young women! […]



An Author

From the time I can remember, I have been a bookworm. Reading has been both my salvation and my teacher. When I was young I read to escape, but also to learn and grow.

From the time I can remember, I have been a bookworm. Reading has been both my salvation and my teacher. When I was young I read to escape, but also to learn and grow. As a very young girl, I would tell people that I was going to be an author […]



Self Promotion for Women

As a female business owner, I am involved in some wonderful networking groups, both in person and online. I love the camaraderie of the groups, the connection, and most especially, the excellent advice and support.

As a female business owner, I am involved in some wonderful networking groups, both in person and online. I love the camaraderie of the groups, the connection, and most especially, the excellent advice and support. However, I have noticed an interesting phenomenon in most of these groups and it’s the push […]



Declare Your Independence … from Clutter!

As the Declaration of Independence states, you are entitled to life, liberty, and the pursuit of a clutter free environment. Okay, so I took a little liberty with that quote, but if you are being held back by the clutter in your home/office, free yourself of all unnecessary items.

Please enjoy this guest post by Bonnie Hillman Shay

Americans celebrate the Fourth of July as the date our forefathers and foremothers acknowledged their liberation from the King of England. As the Declaration of Independence states, you are entitled to life, liberty, and the pursuit of a clutter free environment. Okay, […]



Lamby

We don't remember who gave her the soft, part blanket/part stuffed animal appropriately named Lamby but somehow Lamby became her favorite comfort object and went with her everywhere.

We don't remember who gave her the soft, part blanket/part stuffed animal appropriately named Lamby but somehow Lamby became her favorite comfort object and went with her everywhere.  Our sweet baby girl would cuddle into her crib, grab Lamby, rub her face into the soft fabric and eventually fall fast asleep. […]



How Could She Not Be Confident?

I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon in my work with women. Almost every woman I meet is sure that other women have more going for them and more confidence than they do.

I've noticed an interesting phenomenon in my work with women.  Almost every woman I meet is sure that other women have more going for them and more confidence than they do.  They are also shocked when they find out that other women struggle with confidence when they seem to have it […]



Changing the Internal Mean Girl into the Confident Woman

There seems to be an epidemic of women who walk around with an internal mean girl who criticizes them endlessly. How can we get rid of this mean girl?

Since most of my work time is spent with women, I've learned a lot about the internal workings of said women.  There seems to be an epidemic of women who walk around with an internal mean girl who criticizes them endlessly.  This mean girl belittles their appearance, their confidence, their skills, […]



A Girl’s Graduation

Today is the day my daughter graduates from high school. I'm proud of my girl and can't wait to see what she tackles next. I'm also a bit jealous. In four years, my girl will be finishing college in a world so dramatically different from mine at her age.

Today is the day my daughter graduates from high school. I'm proud of my girl and can't wait to see what she tackles next. I'm also a bit jealous. In four years, my girl will be finishing college in a world so dramatically different from mine at her age. When I […]