Category Archives: Happiness Fulfillment & Self Esteem


A Very Bad Week?

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A few weeks ago, I had a very bad week. Or did I? I was working with a woman who nicely asked me what I was having. As I looked at her with complete confusion, I realized that she was asking what gender my future baby was going to be. The only problem with this […]



Herman Munster and the Fear Factor

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As I’ve written about previously, I’ve spent a number of years nursing a painful back injury. When I first hurt myself, the pain was so intense and horrible that I vowed to do everything possible to not feel that pain again. I hurt myself exercising, so after that I started to exercise a bit less […]



Keep Feeling and Keep Breathing

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A few months ago, I resumed a yoga practice that I’m just now starting to enjoy. Yoga is hard, yet it is also life affirming and growth producing. Some days I really hate it and some days it feels like the most radically positive step of my life. What’s interesting about yoga is that if […]



The Women’s Happiness Equality Challenge

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“If my kids are happy, I’m happy.” “If my partner is happy, I’m happy.” “If my boss is happy, I’m happy.” Etc. These are the words that I hear from women every single day. They might as well say, “I don’t deserve to be happy until everyone else in my life is.” We talk about […]



I’ve Been Me For A Long Time

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Recently, I was talking to a client about how much trouble she was having with making permanent changes in her life and she said, “I’ve been me for a long time.” That made me laugh, but it was also rather profound. We have been ourselves for a very long time and we’ve developed habits, behaviors, […]



Table for One

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Ten years ago, I was invited to New York to lead a training class for the American Management Association. I had three school-aged children at that time and I’d been working part time, but felt unfulfilled and exhausted from those early motherhood years. I jumped at the chance to travel alone, envisioning myself to be […]



When Your Team Loses

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It’s a few weeks after the monumental World Series win by the Chicago Cubs. I’m a lifelong Chicagoan who has lived through year after year of Cubbies losing. It was incredible when they won after 108 years of defeat! The city was a blanket of joyful celebrations, touching stories, and peaceful revelers. Winning feels great. […]



Some Thanksgiving Musings on Doing Gratitude

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What if we are doing this gratitude thing all wrong? Here’s how I hear people doing gratitude: “It’s too bad your basement flooded, but you should just be grateful that your pipes didn’t burst. That’s much worse.” “I’m so sorry that you have cancer, but you should just be grateful that the kind you have […]



Owning Your Life – Joy’s Story

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Recently my friend, Joy, told me this story. Joy was working sixty plus hours a week doing work that she loved, but not getting paid what she deserved and certainly not getting the respect that she deserved. She asked for a raise numerous times. She was denied. She asked for an assistant. She was denied. […]



The Problem on the Yoga Mat

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I used to love yoga and then I stopped going because my back hurt too much. Since completing physical therapy and continuing with the exercises, I’m feeling much better. So when a friend asked me to join her at a hot yoga class, I decided to go for it. I felt like crap. I was […]