Category Archives: Happiness Fulfillment & Self Esteem


Happiness Lessons From My Dog

Who knew that my sweet puppy would pull me out of this unhappiness and that observing her behavior would push me to change my own?

Ginger is my seventy-five pound., energy-filled Goldendoodle who joined our family almost eight years ago. I claimed that we got her for my children, but in actuality it was because I was lonely that year when my youngest child went to school full days. I don’t think I fooled anyone. My house was quiet and […]



Delegate Without Apology

We were responding to a question in the group regarding delegating to others and Beth said, “I delegate without apology.” Ladies, did you hear that? She delegates without apology! Seriously, I was a bit blown away in that the rest of us were apologizing for delegating.

A few weeks ago, I was in a women’s networking meeting with my dear friend, Beth McCormack. Beth is a divorce attorney rock star, as well as a wise friend and mentor. We were responding to a question in the group regarding delegating to others and Beth said, “I delegate without apology.” Ladies, did you […]



Hate, Politics, and Finding Your Voice (Yep, I’m going there.)

The other day, a friend of mine posted a pretty cruel and divisive political post on Facebook. He isn’t the only one, of course. Sometimes I just unfriend or hide really nasty people or comments, but this man is a close friend.

The other day, a friend of mine posted a pretty cruel and divisive political post on Facebook. He isn’t the only one, of course. Sometimes I just unfriend or hide really nasty people or comments, but this man is a close friend. I care about him and his family. I often think I should just […]



Are you “Chasing Meaning”?

So many people that I meet and work with are avoiding discomfort. I used to be one of those people. It’s easy to attempt to avoid discomfort; stay afraid, don’t take risks, and blame others for any negative situations you are in. Easy! Yet, easy doesn’t mean happy and healthy.

While teaching a wonderful group of women assertiveness skills, I showed them a Ted Talk by Kelly McGonigal entitled, “How to Make Stress Your Friend”.  McGonigal is a health coach and discusses how seeing stress as part of life and embracing it versus fearing it is often the difference between illness and health.  The whole […]



Finding Comfort in Discomfort

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary.

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary. It’s uncomfortable to suddenly be assertive and ask for what we want. It’s uncomfortable to set limits for ourselves when […]



Do Women Need To Lower Their Pain Tolerance?

Holding on to even low-lying pain is like carrying an anchor around all day. We can probably do it, but at what cost to our own health and well-being?

Here's what I hear from women, "No, he wasn't very nice to me, but I'm okay. I'm tough." "So no one listens to me at my house? I can handle it. It's no big deal." "There's no doubt he has dragged the divorce out and has been bullying me, but it's not that bad. I […]



Selfless or Selfish: Are these our only two choices?

Here's how we get off the selfish/selfless misery train. There are thousands of options between both ends of selfless and selfish so why do we have so much trouble finding those middle spots?

Here's what my clients tell me, "I need to be completely selfless, that's just who I am. Otherwise I'm being selfish and I'm not happy that way." They tell me this as if women have only two choices in life, to give up everything for others or to only care about themselves. Either way, I've […]



Changing Our Voice

Her email brought tears to my eyes because I know how rotten her situation is, yet she was able to find the courage to dig even deeper.

Last week, one of my clients was going through a very difficult time.  She was ready to just succumb to the unhappiness she was feeling.  Understandably, she felt angry, out of control, and pissed off at me and the world.  Yet she sent me an email that had this line,
"I realized that I do […]



Working with Women

Last week, I was honored to give a 2-day talk to a group of wonderful women around the topic of Executive Presence for Women.  I gave the talk through the American Management Association in Chicago.  The program was a microcosm of how I would want the world to be all the time.

There isn't a […]



Wellness, Success, Weight Loss, and Beauty

As soon as I stopped focusing on eating for appearance and started focusing on eating for wellness, not only did I feel better but I had more time and energy for work, family, and other pursuits.

Most of my adult life has been spent feeling unhappy about my physical appearance.  I'm too fat here, too small there, nothing looks good on me and blah, blah, blah.  A few years ago, I decided to hop off of the "I hate how I look" bandwagon and decided to stop focusing on my appearance.  […]