Category Archives: Happiness Fulfillment & Self Esteem


The Couch is Easier

She told me that she realized she had gotten too comfortable on her couch with her television shows and she wasn’t challenging herself to get out and face the world.

One of my brilliant clients (They all are!) told me the other day that months ago she had cancelled her cable service. As a periodic couch potato, I was shocked and asked her why. She told me that she realized she had gotten too comfortable on her couch with her television shows and she wasn’t […]



Gratitude Made Simple (or Gratitude for Dummies – You know, like the books.)

I love Thanksgiving, but it may be more for the food than the forced gratitude day. Call me a Thanksgiving Scrooge, but sometimes the push for gratitude feels oppressive and I often feel guilty for not having some enlightened gratitude awareness.

You are most likely receiving this newsletter on Thanksgiving Day. Thanksgiving, at least for Americans, is a time in which we give thanks for all of the blessings and gifts in our lives. I love Thanksgiving, but it may be more for the food than the forced gratitude day. Call me a Thanksgiving Scrooge, but […]



Revisiting Health and Wellbeing (Before the Holiday Season)

What I often find is that when women want to lose weight simply to change their appearance, rarely are they making healthy choices in their lives. They are crash dieting, obsessive exercising, and looking for that quick fix weight loss pill.

Recently I wrote a blog for Mind Body Green about weight loss, health, and our mindset around these issues. Almost immediately after the blog was published, I received a Twitter comment asking why I talked about weight loss in my blog, particularly when so many people ultimately fail at long-term weight loss. It’s a good […]



The Confidence Conundrum: 3 Steps to Building Your Confidence Connection

So how do I help my clients push through the conundrum and into the confidence connection? With three very specific and relatively simple steps:

Here’s what I hear from clients quite frequently: “I just don’t have the confidence to do that. I’m scared.” I get that, and I think it’s a normal emotion to have fear around new situations and challenging pursuits. Interestingly enough, most advice around confidence sounds very much like a Nike commercial, “Just do it.” Yet […]



Happiness Lessons From My Dog

Who knew that my sweet puppy would pull me out of this unhappiness and that observing her behavior would push me to change my own?

Ginger is my seventy-five pound., energy-filled Goldendoodle who joined our family almost eight years ago. I claimed that we got her for my children, but in actuality it was because I was lonely that year when my youngest child went to school full days. I don’t think I fooled anyone. My house was quiet and […]



Delegate Without Apology

We were responding to a question in the group regarding delegating to others and Beth said, “I delegate without apology.” Ladies, did you hear that? She delegates without apology! Seriously, I was a bit blown away in that the rest of us were apologizing for delegating.

A few weeks ago, I was in a women’s networking meeting with my dear friend, Beth McCormack. Beth is a divorce attorney rock star, as well as a wise friend and mentor. We were responding to a question in the group regarding delegating to others and Beth said, “I delegate without apology.” Ladies, did you […]



Hate, Politics, and Finding Your Voice (Yep, I’m going there.)

The other day, a friend of mine posted a pretty cruel and divisive political post on Facebook. He isn’t the only one, of course. Sometimes I just unfriend or hide really nasty people or comments, but this man is a close friend.

The other day, a friend of mine posted a pretty cruel and divisive political post on Facebook. He isn’t the only one, of course. Sometimes I just unfriend or hide really nasty people or comments, but this man is a close friend. I care about him and his family. I often think I should just […]



Are you “Chasing Meaning”?

So many people that I meet and work with are avoiding discomfort. I used to be one of those people. It’s easy to attempt to avoid discomfort; stay afraid, don’t take risks, and blame others for any negative situations you are in. Easy! Yet, easy doesn’t mean happy and healthy.

While teaching a wonderful group of women assertiveness skills, I showed them a Ted Talk by Kelly McGonigal entitled, “How to Make Stress Your Friend”.  McGonigal is a health coach and discusses how seeing stress as part of life and embracing it versus fearing it is often the difference between illness and health.  The whole […]



Finding Comfort in Discomfort

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary.

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary. It’s uncomfortable to suddenly be assertive and ask for what we want. It’s uncomfortable to set limits for ourselves when […]



Do Women Need To Lower Their Pain Tolerance?

Holding on to even low-lying pain is like carrying an anchor around all day. We can probably do it, but at what cost to our own health and well-being?

Here's what I hear from women, "No, he wasn't very nice to me, but I'm okay. I'm tough." "So no one listens to me at my house? I can handle it. It's no big deal." "There's no doubt he has dragged the divorce out and has been bullying me, but it's not that bad. I […]