Every woman I’ve ever met (myself included) has confessed that what most often holds them back in life is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of success, failure, making a fool out of ourselves; fear of hurting others, or of even being more successful than others. All of these are reasonable fears but they aren’t helpful in propelling us to lead the lives we want to live. So how do we get over our fears?
If you look at the women around you who are successful in any aspect of their life, you will see that all of them have overcome fear. The mother who has a child with special needs was afraid when her child was first diagnosed. The woman who has been promoted numerous times was afraid to ask for that first promotion. The marathon runner was afraid when she first tied on her running shoes and the politician in your community was afraid when she first started making public speeches.
Can You Survive if Your Fear is Realized?
We are all afraid of something and the key is to understand the fear and to ask ourselves if we can survive if that fear is realized. The special need’s mom is afraid that she won’t be able to help her child and that it will be too hard for her yet when she faces that fear she realizes that she can help both her child and herself. The woman with the successful career realized that the worst she could hear is no and that she’d be ok with that but she’d never get a yes if she didn’t ask. Most of us will be just fine even if some of our worst fears are realized.
That’s the thing about fear, it’s here to protect us from really dangerous things but it’s more of an annoyance for other areas of our life. So get really clear about what scares you, look at it closely and ask yourself if you can handle it if those fears are realized. Here’s a hint, you can. Push through one fear at a time, see yourself get stronger and then pushing past fear won’t be so hard for you.
Let me know how you do.
Lisa Kaplin Psy. D. CPC
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Smart Women, Inspired Lives: How to Be Happy & Confident
by Dr. Lisa Kaplin
Do you long for more energy? Do you wish you could walk into any room and feel happy and confident? Do you simply want to enjoy your life more – personally and professionally? You can. Too many women today are doing more, but feeling less satisfied. Life doesn’t have to be that way. With small tweaks and simple strategies, you can enjoy a great life with soaring self-confidence, a good sense of well-being, and plenty of laughter. This easy-to-read yet profoundly impactful book will be all you need to join the tribe of smart women living inspired lives. Your life gets better right now.
About Lisa Kaplin, Psy. D, CPC
Certified Life Coach and Psychologist at Smart Women Inspired Lives.
I’m the proud owner of Smart Women Inspired Lives, where I help overwhelmed and exhausted women move from the feeling of being “stuck” into a life filled with calm, confidence, and joy. In addition to the posts and articles I write, I offer individual and group life coaching sessions, classes and speaking engagement opportunities.
Many women have either lost confidence in themselves or realize that they’ve never had it. They are afraid to ask for what they want, they don’t feel good about themselves physically or emotionally, and getting through the day is exhausting. Lisa’s unique self esteem coaching isn’t about superficial compliments to yourself but rather the deep, insightful work that will permanently change how you feel about yourself, how you approach the world, and how to take care of yourself in the healthiest possible way.
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