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What Exactly is Leadership and How is it Done Well?

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I try to limit my political discussions in this blog, but our current president has offered up a great opportunity to talk about the concept and the behavior around effective leadership. Let’s take our political viewpoints out of this, and instead focus on the lessons that might be learned by observing one’s leadership behavior.

Recently, I posted some of President […]



Can Earth Mama Still Assert Herself?

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A few weeks ago I was leading a women’s assertiveness class with a fabulous group of women. In the class we practice assertive behavioral and verbal skills both personally and professionally. The women in the class were highly accomplished professionals, yet still struggle with asserting themselves and leading their teams. One woman kept calling herself “Earth Mama” and suggesting that […]



Wonder Woman

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A few weeks ago, I saw the Wonder Woman movie. I’m not a huge superhero fan, but I couldn’t resist a movie directed by a woman with a mostly female cast. Did I mention it was a cast of badass, powerful, smart, and loving women? For most of my fifty-five years of life, movies have been focused on men, with […]



The Mean Girls

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A few weeks ago, I gave a talk to a group of executive women. There were about twenty women in the room and they were all considered “high potentials” for their company. They were very smart and very successful and one of the toughest crowds I’ve had in awhile.

Two of the women were apparently texting each other while I […]



Feedback at 55?

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Today is my 55th birthday. I’m not a bit sad about it because, as I’ve mentioned here before, the alternative to getting old is death. I’m grateful for the opportunity to get another year older and I’m hoping for many, many more similar opportunities in the future.

This last year has been one of the most interesting, challenging years of […]



Assertiveness Gone Missing

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I spend a lot of time with really smart, accomplished women who are really lacking in assertiveness. When I ask these brilliant women why they aren't more assertive, I get two common answers; 1) What if I'm wrong? 2) I don't want to hurt anyone else. Let's unpack these a little bit.

"What if I'm wrong?" Why are women so afraid […]



Valuing Our First Act to Lead to a Better Second Act

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Lately, I seem to be surrounded by women who are ready for their second act of life. Their children are grown and mostly independent. Many of these women either didn’t work outside of the house or chose to slow down their careers to focus on family. Of course, these are privileged women who had the financial option to do so […]



A Girl’s Graduation

Today is the day my daughter graduates from high school. I'm proud of my girl and can't wait to see what she tackles next. I'm also a bit jealous. In four years, my girl will be finishing college in a world so dramatically different from mine at her age.

Today is the day my daughter graduates from high school. I'm proud of my girl and can't wait to see what she tackles next. I'm also a bit jealous. In four years, my girl will be finishing college in a world so dramatically different from mine at her age. When I finished college, I took an administration job at a […]



Because it’s 2016

I urge you to value yourself as much as you value others. To periodically (maybe even frequently) prioritize yourself as one who is more than worthy of love and care.

When newly elected Canadian Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, was asked why half of his cabinet was comprised of women, he responded, “Because it’s 2015.” That may stand as one of my favorite political responses of all time. Trudeau seems to understand that women’s rightful place as half of all decision makers is well past its due date.
It is a […]



Finding Comfort in Discomfort

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary.

A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary. It’s uncomfortable to suddenly be assertive and ask for what we want. It’s uncomfortable to set limits for ourselves when we’ve never done it before. […]