I spend a lot of time with really smart, accomplished women who are really lacking in assertiveness. When I ask these brilliant women why they aren't more assertive, I get two common answers; 1) What if I'm wrong? 2) I don't want to hurt anyone else. Let's unpack these a little bit.
"What if I'm wrong?" Why are women so afraid […]
Lately, I seem to be surrounded by women who are ready for their second act of life. Their children are grown and mostly independent. Many of these women either didn’t work outside of the house or chose to slow down their careers to focus on family. Of course, these are privileged women who had the financial option to do so […]
Today is the day my daughter graduates from high school. I'm proud of my girl and can't wait to see what she tackles next. I'm also a bit jealous. In four years, my girl will be finishing college in a world so dramatically different from mine at her age. When I finished college, I took an administration job at a […]
When newly elected Canadian Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, was asked why half of his cabinet was comprised of women, he responded, “Because it’s 2015.” That may stand as one of my favorite political responses of all time. Trudeau seems to understand that women’s rightful place as half of all decision makers is well past its due date.
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A topic that comes up again and again for me, my clients, and my friends is the feeling of being uncomfortable when we try new things, change something in our lives, or do something scary. It’s uncomfortable to suddenly be assertive and ask for what we want. It’s uncomfortable to set limits for ourselves when we’ve never done it before. […]
Over the past few weeks I've shared seven different secrets to help you become leaders of your own life. When women call me to work with me they tell me that they don't feel confident in how they are living their lives. They don't feel like leaders either at home or at work. Sometimes if we make a few simple […]
Every woman I've ever met (myself included) has confessed that what most often holds them back in life is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of success, failure, making a fool out of ourselves; fear of hurting others, or of even being more successful than others. All of these are reasonable fears but they aren't helpful in propelling us to […]
When I look back over the past three years and the dramatic changes that I've made in my life, I try to think clearly about how I got here so that I can help others do the same. I've been sharing some of these secrets with you in my "7 steps to leadership of your life" posts. However, the biggest […]
Sometimes there are external obstacles that hold us back; a lack of money, time, etc. However, more often the obstacles that hold us back are the ones that we put in our own way. Do you often tell yourself that you aren't smart enough to do something? Not strong enough? Have you said you thought you are too old, too […]
Here's what the doom loop looks like; you get to work and your normally friendly boss doesn't say hi to you. You are sure that they don't like you anymore so you go to your office and obsess about it all day. Your good friend hasn't returned your call in two days and you are quite sure that she likes […]