Like many people I know, I’m a people-pleaser. I really like people to like me. It feels good to be liked and likeable, as well as being noticed and complimented. People-pleasing comes easy to me as I’ve done it for most of my life. However, over the last few years, I’ve really worked hard at not being a people-pleaser. I’ve […]
As part of my business, I am a corporate trainer as well as a lead trainer for a fabulous coaching school. I love my work. I train people around leadership skills, communication, and relationships. Yet I find that when I even mention the word relationships, I get oddly negative responses from people. “I don’t want to work on relationships.” “I […]
How many of you have seen and loved the movie, Groundhog Day? Bill Murray gets to live Groundhog Day over and over again until he gains insight into himself and his place in the world. How many of us wouldn’t love a chance to redo a day until we got it just right? Well it turns out that there is […]
How many of us have felt that we could have handled a situation with more assertiveness? How often have you regretted not being more assertive? You aren't alone. Assertiveness is a great concept but sometimes it's hard to put into action. Many of us never learned how to be assertive and thus we move through life either in passive reaction […]
I try to limit my political discussions in this blog, but our current president has offered up a great opportunity to talk about the concept and the behavior around effective leadership. Let’s take our political viewpoints out of this, and instead focus on the lessons that might be learned by observing one’s leadership behavior.
Recently, I posted some of President […]
A few weeks ago I was leading a women’s assertiveness class with a fabulous group of women. In the class we practice assertive behavioral and verbal skills both personally and professionally. The women in the class were highly accomplished professionals, yet still struggle with asserting themselves and leading their teams. One woman kept calling herself “Earth Mama” and suggesting that […]
A few weeks ago, I saw the Wonder Woman movie. I’m not a huge superhero fan, but I couldn’t resist a movie directed by a woman with a mostly female cast. Did I mention it was a cast of badass, powerful, smart, and loving women? For most of my fifty-five years of life, movies have been focused on men, with […]
A few weeks ago, I gave a talk to a group of executive women. There were about twenty women in the room and they were all considered “high potentials” for their company. They were very smart and very successful and one of the toughest crowds I’ve had in awhile.
Two of the women were apparently texting each other while I […]
Today is my 55th birthday. I’m not a bit sad about it because, as I’ve mentioned here before, the alternative to getting old is death. I’m grateful for the opportunity to get another year older and I’m hoping for many, many more similar opportunities in the future.
This last year has been one of the most interesting, challenging years of […]
I spend a lot of time with really smart, accomplished women who are really lacking in assertiveness. When I ask these brilliant women why they aren't more assertive, I get two common answers; 1) What if I'm wrong? 2) I don't want to hurt anyone else. Let's unpack these a little bit.
"What if I'm wrong?" Why are women so afraid […]