I spend a lot of time with really smart, accomplished women who are really lacking in assertiveness. When I ask these brilliant women why they aren't more assertive, I get two common answers; 1) What if I'm wrong? 2) I don't want to hurt anyone else. Let's unpack these a little bit.
"What if I'm wrong?" Why are women so afraid […]
“If my kids are happy, I’m happy.” “If my partner is happy, I’m happy.” “If my boss is happy, I’m happy.” Etc. These are the words that I hear from women every single day. They might as well say, “I don’t deserve to be happy until everyone else in my life is.” We talk about women as if putting our […]
Recently, I was talking to a client about how much trouble she was having with making permanent changes in her life and she said, “I’ve been me for a long time.” That made me laugh, but it was also rather profound. We have been ourselves for a very long time and we’ve developed habits, behaviors, and thoughts that feel comfortable […]
I used to love yoga and then I stopped going because my back hurt too much. Since completing physical therapy and continuing with the exercises, I’m feeling much better. So when a friend asked me to join her at a hot yoga class, I decided to go for it. I felt like crap. I was out of shape, stiff, and […]
Are you confident? Are you sure? If you are confident, where did you get that confidence? These are common questions that I hear from women in my life and often a difficult question to answer. It’s a shame that there isn’t a confidence store. You know, kind of like Nordstrom’s but with different variations of confidence. There’s the appearance section, […]