What do you need to do?


So, what do you need to do right this minute to take care of yourself? A nap? A walk? Talking to a friend? Listening to music? Work? Play? A hug? What would help you right now? What if doing that very thing helped you to feel better, accomplish more, and find genuine peace and happiness in your life?


Recently, my 18-year-old daughter was having a tough night. She was tired from working two jobs, stressed out about her college admissions, and overwhelmed with homework. She was in tears and had no idea what to do next. Typically, I fall into fix-it mom mode in which I start problem solving versus really listening. Not surprisingly, this frustrates my daughter even more and really doesn’t help at all.

What do you need to do right this minute to take care of yourself?

For some reason on this particular night, I got inspired to not problem solve for her. Instead, I heard her out and then said, “What do you need to do right this minute to take care of yourself?” She looked at me with a surprised but grateful look and said, “I need to go to bed right now.” Off to bed she went and the next day she told me how much that question helped her. I’m sure she was thinking, “Why did it take you eighteen years to figure that out?” But she was kind enough not to say so. Instead, she said a good night sleep was exactly what she needed to get everything done and to feel good.

All day I thought about the question that I had asked my daughter and how often I have asked myself that same question. Rarely, when I am overwhelmed or stressed, do I ask myself what I need to do to take care of myself. Instead, I often push myself harder, judge myself, or ignore the signs that I need a break. Of course all of that pushing just stresses me out more and adds to the feeling of overwhelm. I notice that many women seem to be doing the same thing. We walk around overwhelmed and exhausted and wonder why we are cranky and unhappy.

What would help you right now?

So, what do you need to do right this minute to take care of yourself? A nap? A walk? Talking to a friend? Listening to music? Work? Play? A hug? What would help you right now? What if doing that very thing helped you to feel better, accomplish more, and find genuine peace and happiness in your life? Maybe we are going about things in the exact opposite way that we need to. Maybe slowing down and taking care of ourselves will actually help us to be more accomplished, be happier and healthier, be more creative and more productive versus the other way around.

What a concept! I’m going to try it. Who is with me?

Love,

Lisa Kaplin Psy. D. CPC

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Comments to “What do you need to do?”


  1. For the last few years I have been saying I just need one day where I stay in bed all day, don’t get up and just do nothing. I will as soon as Chicago gives me one of those weather days when I can do just that! Thanks!

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    • Ilona, Me too yet I never do it! I’m sure you’ll get the oppurtnity once the winter hits.

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